How to create the best hairSTYLES?

i mean i have hair to the top of my boobs its layered, fairly thin and a long but thin side fringe. Also have a slightly heart shaped face. But when i try to create hairstyles eg. side plates, high messy buns. Low and high ponytails well basically anything you get it! ha ha so what would help? a certain product or straightening it first or......anything? please help